"There are two parts to a rider really moving in harmony with the horse. First, the rider’s hips must move to follow the horse’s movement. The second thing is relaxation. To nail the lead change, you must move and work as one."
- America's Horse Daily
This is one of the best articles I've read on getting the flying lead change. It's also got links for building your horse up to the flying lead change.
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